Remarriage...another one - LONG ONE

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On Sat, 12 Sep 1998 13:14:21 -0700 "Moore, Kirk W"
<Kirk.Moore@PSS.Boeing.com> writes:
>
>	PLEASE READ ALL OF THIS POST BEFORE RESPONDING.


>We are to be BOOKS read and know of all men. We are to represent 
>Christ
>in all things. The Bible states that if an enemy does something to 
>you,
>you are to PRAY for them, and FORGIVE them. There are times that we 
>get
>in a bad position. Adultery being the worst of all positions. It hurts
>all that fall into it. By the divorce-ok group, If I look on a women 
>in
>LUST and confess that to my wife, I have committed adultery and she 
>can
>divorce me. Jesus said that if a man look on a women in lust they have
>committed adultery with her already. Thus opening the door for divorce
>in that marriage.

I think there is a difference between the physical act where two become
one flesh and the thought of it.

It comes down to this: When do we have the right to break a vow, 
>because
>the other has. One breaking the vow, does not relieve the other of
>fulfilling their part of the vow.

When a vow has been broken by one party, I feel it has been broken,
period.

>As the wrong party, we need to look at what we did to facilitate the
>problems. How did we push them out the door. I will say that there are
>people who have GOOD spouses and cannot control themselves. This is a
>case that needs to be handled on a case by case basis. Could we have
>opened doors by treating the accused badly. 

With all due respect to your personal experience and respect also for
your choice in your personal matter,  I don't feel that someone can make
someone else sin.  It is still a personal choice.  Every marriage has its
ups and downs.  If someone has not been the perfect mate that does not
make them guilty for the other persons choice to do wrong even if it has
contributed to that choice. 

>After I determined in heart to follow GOD,  he opened my eyes to TRUE
>forgiveness. He opened my eyes to TRUE love. We are to LOVE our wives 
>as
>CHRIST love the church and gave himself for it. It was at that time, 
>GOD
>showed 12 men that ran and betrayed him. HE still loved them, even in
>their weakness. 

I greatly respect you for making this decision, but when a person has a
spouse who is not repentant and who continues to break the vows
repeatedly, do you think they should have to stay?

It would seem scripturally that a person has a right to divorce in the
instance of adultery.  When it can be worked out, I fully believe that is
best.  But it takes two to make it work and if one party is continually
unwilling to repent of unfaithfulness, I can't see them having to stay. 
Let me also state that I see this as the *only* scriptural reason for
divorce and I am opposed to pushing this limit.

Lynne Yohnk




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