Remarriage...another one - LONG ONE

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YOU:
> You mean if he gets divorced from his wife on SCRIPTURAL GROUNDS
> (which
> means the divorce is justified in the eyes of God) then how can MAN
> hold
> that against him?  
> 
> The gifts and calling of God are without repentance...UNLESS a man
> gets a
> divorce?
> 
> 
ME:

I believe that the Bible should be true. There are too many scriptures
that remove that option away   from a person. Jesus, Paul and others
have written that 'For the hardness of your heart"... but from the
beginning God did not suffer it to be so.

(Let me qualify my next statement. I am talking only about 2 people
filled with the Holy Ghost, Saved, baptized and walking a consecrated
walk.)

We are to be BOOKS read and know of all men. We are to represent Christ
in all things. The Bible states that if an enemy does something to you,
you are to PRAY for them, and FORGIVE them. There are times that we get
in a bad position. Adultery being the worst of all positions. It hurts
all that fall into it. By the divorce-ok group, If I look on a women in
LUST and confess that to my wife, I have committed adultery and she can
divorce me. Jesus said that if a man look on a women in lust they have
committed adultery with her already. Thus opening the door for divorce
in that marriage.

Having worked through the issue with folks, it seems to me that IT gets
DOWN to one person HARDENING their heart towards forgiveness. "Forgive
us our trespasses as we forgive those that trespass against us". We are
called to walk higher, and taller than the world. We are examples to
them of what God can do in the broken lives of people around us. 

It comes down to this: When do we have the right to break a vow, because
the other has. One breaking the vow, does not relieve the other of
fulfilling their part of the vow. These are vows that are said before
God, or become Gods after BOTH parties are Saved, Baptized, and filled
with the Holy Ghost. The issue of mixed marriages and unsaved should be
dealt with in separate posts.

As the wrong party, we need to look at what we did to facilitate the
problems. How did we push them out the door. I will say that there are
people who have GOOD spouses and cannot control themselves. This is a
case that needs to be handled on a case by case basis. Could we have
opened doors by treating the accused badly. 

If interested I could post what I have found on the subject from a bible
point of view.... 

Before you flame me...... I have been there and done that. This is a
problem that will happen to even the best. When my wife and I went to
Counseling, I began to see what I did that cause my wife to look outside
marriage for friendship. It just so happened that who she found, did not
have any morals, or scruples. I don't have to tell you what happened
next.

At first I wanted to divorce. I had the grounds. My marriage had been
broken, my wife and moved me out. I was bitter and angry at the
attention the other was getting. BUT THIS... how could she...
I then began to pray, slowly God opened me to a higher level of
forgiveness. The question that was ASKED by GOD to ME in a VOICE that I
HEARD..... Are you going to be a PHARISEE, or are you going to be a
CHILD of GOD. 

After I determined in heart to follow GOD,  he opened my eyes to TRUE
forgiveness. He opened my eyes to TRUE love. We are to LOVE our wives as
CHRIST love the church and gave himself for it. It was at that time, GOD
showed 12 men that ran and betrayed him. HE still loved them, even in
their weakness. 

POINT:
God always gives us two ways to go. Neither will send us to hell, they
are chooses. The question that I ask - What would my God have me to do.
Which one promotes God Kingdom. Which one attains to a higher walk with
God.

My wife and I are closer than ever before. We have a better relationship
than any other time. We have a family that went through the VALLEY and
GOD brought us through. We trust him more, we LOVE him More. I have
learned what I did, that pushed her out the door. I have learned to
treat her with that LOVE that God loved us with, even when 12 men did
what they did.


So from personal experience I write the post. Please discussions
welcomed, Flames looked at. :)

--
Kirk Moore
CDG analyst II
Boeing Commercial Airplane
Renton, WA
425-965-7731

"Black holes are created when God divides by zero"