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Greetings In Jesus Name,

On Fri, 20 Feb 1998 Eddy Villegas <eyecri@connectnet.com> wrote:
>I'm currently engaged to be married in August of this year. I want to
>ask some of you married folks out there for a little advise before I
>take the plunge.

Congratulations! In August I will have been married 34 years to the same
wonderful woman. I have learned some things and since you ask for
advice, I will share some with you.

1. When I was growing up, my pastor's wife said to marry a Church girl.
When my job transferred me to Washington DC, the UPC pastor ask me over
to their home for a meal. They showed me some pictures and one of them
was my now wife. It sounds crazy but I fell in love with her from her
picture. She worked in the nursery and was holding a young child in her
arms. They told me her name was Linda Church. I went to her job and saw
her and the rest is history. My point is to be sure God approves of the
marriage. You and her will be Soul mates for life so you better be sure
you both have compatible Spirits. It goes without saying that you both
should have the same basic religious beliefs.

2. Learn to communicate. You will never have a good marriage unless you
learn to share your intimate feelings with each other. Listen to her.
Never put her down for what she shares with you. If you want her to
treat you like a king, then treat her like a queen. And yes, you may
have to eat some food that your mama can cook better but don't tell her
that.

3. Are you ready for this one? LEARN HOW TO FIGHT. When you two get
married, you become one. You wouldn't take a hammer and beat on your
hand because it would hurt. If you really love your wife and you
verbally beat on her when you get mad, then tomorrow when you are over
your mad spell and you realize what you have said, it will hurt. If it
doesn't hurt then you better check your love for her. Let me give you
some advice on how to fight. Get a little tape recorder or perhaps two.
When you have a fight, let one go in the bedroom and the other in the
bathroom. Say all the mean things that you think you want to say to her.
That way you will not forget anything. Then 24 hours later, if you still
want her to hear it, then give it to her. My wife made me one a long
time ago but she never let me hear it. I don't bother making tapes
because I know that after I settle down, that there is no way I would
say those things to the woman I love. You see I know that no matter how
mad I get, that I still love her and she still loves me. THE BOTTOM LINE
IS KEEP YOUR MOUTH SHUT UNTIL YOU HAVE A CHANCE TO THINK. The other
point is Pray before you speak.

The smartest thing I ever did was ask Jesus to Save me.
The second smartest thing I ever did was ask Linda to be my wife.

Christian Love
Floyd E. Avery
feavery@prysm.net